Well, I finally have my wife's banking details. She has saved a lot of money over the course of our marriage, and before.
I did not expect her to so casually provide her bank account details to me, especially given her refusal to do so in the past, but she probably thought she had no choice.
This surprisingly does not make me feel relieved or satisfied. In fact I feel more frustrated than ever, especially when I consider why it has taken so long, and why there was so much resistance.
I sometimes think back to when we first met, and I wonder why I never picked up on her "Me not Us" view of marriage. Or if I did, why or how I let it get to this point.
I remember in fact the day that we met, and all the circumstances behind it. I had been about a year out of a long-term relationship, and my colleague and his wife invited me for dinner at a restaurant.
Once dinner was over, they surprised me by providing me a ticket, and dropping me off in the city for what I was to find out was a speed-dating evening.
Now I am not the most charming of men, and I often get tongue tied in these situations, so I felt quite uneasy about going ahead with this, but I thought it may be a good laugh if nothing else, so I gave it a shot.
I waited for an anxious half an hour in a bar with another 30 or so men and women, all strangers to me.
Most of the men and women congregated in small groups. It was obvious to me that women came prepared in groups, while men came alone but grouped up out of necessity.
Despite feeling anxious at being all alone, I felt quite out of my element, and stood there like a statue until the event formally began.
It was at that point that I caught my wife's attention. She too was alone, and as far as I could tell, very shy.
Once formalities began, we got to sit down with each person of the opposite sex for 5 minutes each, and then move on. We were told to make small-talk, but not talk about our work, and not to provide private contact information.
I actually did not like the majority of the women I spoke to, because I felt that they were too self-involved, too demanding, too assertive. But when I got to sit with my wife, it was obvious that we hit it off straight away.
We did not talk about work, money, success, or anything of the sought. It was merely small talk, just a little banter and fun.
So I thought she liked me for me.
In any case I didn't really pursue her, except for the fact that she managed to get my mobile phone number by nights end.
Come next day, I really cooled off on her, and decided that if she called, I would simply make up some excuse, and hopefully she would get the idea.
And so it happened, problem is, she didn't get the message.
So she kept calling, and calling, and calling, and finally I guess I simply caved in to her ongoing request to go out one night.
So try as I may, I can't see how I missed those vital calling signs of things to come....or am I missing something here?
