Friday, November 13, 2009

Our relationship

Well, I don't know how to put this, but after being so accomodating for so long, I have finally come to terms with the fact that Ms B's behaviour in bed, is......hmm, let's just call it unconventional.

Despite my patience, I don't think she will be able to change.

Ever since Ms B and I first consumated our relationship, I was quite struck by her imobility in bed.

She is completely non-tactile, and she just doesn't move.

This is not to say that she doesn't enjoy sex, which she does, but the act of sex for us is not based on mutual reciprocation.

I am the active party and she simply lies there and enjoys it.

I have tried encouraging her to simply touch me during the act, so that we can experience the intimacy of being together, but try as she may, it seems as though it just makes her very uncomfortable. It goes without saying of course that other sexual pleasures of a more engaging nature are out of the question.

Ms B also considers full-mouth kissing as unhygenic, and simply cannot bring herself to kiss in that manner.

This inability to be tactile is however not a hallmark of our relationship outside of the bedroom.

Ms B loves to hold hands, lie on the couch toghether, and cuddle each other late at night.

This sexual dynamic is something that of course I must live with, but it is uncoventional and not what I expected.

Now this of course begs the question as to whether the multitude of Chinese women who wear sexually provocative clothing also behave in such a non-tactile manner in bed.

This I do not have an answer for, but it is an interesting question.


7 comments:

Anonymous said...

This is very interesting insight into how westerners perceive chinese women.

I think chinese women have impression that western men are easy going and will simply do what they are told.

I know that this causes many problems in the end, because both western man and chinese woman had different expectations of each other.

many western men think chinese women are meek, but they are not. They are very strong willed.

Anonymous said...

Chinese woman not good for looking for westerner.

Chinese men not do looking for western woman.

Only bad Chinese woman who make big trouble in China look for westerner.

Anonymous said...

Having lived in China myself, the previous poster sounds like a chinese male who lost some "face" at some stage over a girl making moves on a westerner.

Look. Chinese women are women. Some are crazy in bed, and some aren't. Most however will only have 2-3 partners (if that) by their mid-twenties.

I'd recommend speaking to her mother. :P She'll sort out your wife rather quickly, since it is the duty of the traditional wife to please her husband in all things.

Anonymous said...

My Chinese wife was very active sexually and often initiated the act herself. Right until we got married in fact and after that she would scowl every time I requested it. Now she's pretty much like your wife. I hear a lot of Japanese women with western boyfriends fake orgasm after about one minute and their boyfriends are deceived and believe they are real studs, but the deception ends as soon as the ring goes on the finger. Women of any culture deceive their fiances just as men of any culture put too much emphasis on looks.

Anonymous said...

Again, same as with the house, utterly selfish and only concerned for herself. One day you will realise that this selfish mantra applies to everything in your life. She has no regard for you at all and you deserve better - get some self respect and tell her to fuck off!

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