Well, we just bought a new house.
Its actually quite big, even majestic really. It cost an absolute fortune.
I was happy where we lived, but my wife wanted opulence.
We will move in the next few months.
However my wife and I have come to an impasse.
My wife’s salary goes into a separate bank account, and despite my best efforts, its always been kept out of my reach. In fact I don’t even know how much she has saved.
We have, I say embarrassingly, been living on my income alone since we got married.
Now with the new house purchase, I have demanded that she contribute to the purchase with all her saved funds.
She has refused.
Surprisingly she has been referring to this purchase as “her new house”, and yet she expects not to contribute to it at all.
Given our troubles in the past, this is simply not on.
So I have laid down my terms to her. Either she contributes to the house with her funds, to the extent that she has saved, or I will simply borrow against the house that we have, so that the burden is shared.
I have accepted that our first house will be split equally or thereabouts should we ever separate, despite she never contributing, but I will not make that mistake again.
She has been acting very upset over this, but her expectations are remarkably unreasonable.
This is not an issue that I am prepared to compromise on. If I am to be fair to her, I also have to be just as fair to myself.